What is Face?

Western visitors to Thailand often findassociated with lower class people. Thailand is a
themselves struggling for an explanation to thehierarchal society and the impression you make
mysteries of Thai behaviour. Why do theydoes affect the response you will get from
sometimes behave in ways that seem so strangeofficials. Looking smart is not everything but it is a
to us? One common explanation often putfactor in getting good service.
forward is the Thai concept of 'face'.Behaviour
Why won't they admit they are wrong? TheyIt is important to act with a degree of dignity.
would lose face. Why won't they admit they don'tThais are not serious people but they still like to
know? They would lose face. Why did I get badcarry themselves with a little decorum. Joking and
service? Because you lost your temper and lostfooling around is fine within limits but you should
face. Again and again, when newcomers ask fornot be too loud or make a spectacle of yourself.
an explanation to some strange facet of ThaiTemper
behaviour, the old timers give this simpleIt is bad to lose your temper or argue in public.
explanation.That is not to say it doesn't happen. Thais are
I often wonder if the influence of face is nothuman and prone to the odd outburst like most
overstated. Are the concepts of face really sopeople. However, generally they try to control
different from our own?their anger and keep their composure. If they find
What is Face?themselves in a dispute then they believe a
Face is a concept that is widespread across moststrong word and a cold smile are better ways to
of southern and eastern Asia. It is the idea that itget their point across while maintaining their face.
is important to maintain your own reputation andRespect Others
not look bad in front of others. It is good to haveIt is important to help other people maintain their
high social status. It is good to have a good job, aface. Causing someone else to lose face can
position of responsibility or influence. It is bad toactually also cause a loss of face for yourself.
be seen to fail or do something stupid.The strange thing here is that it is very much to
It is also bad to cause other people to lose face.people's faces that you must respect them.
So while maintaining your own reputation youGossiping behind peoples backs is as common
should try not to demean others.here as it is in the west.
When you look at these ideas, there is nothingOver-reaction to Losing Face
unusual about them. Doesn't everybody want toOne strange thing about face is that Thais can
have a good reputation? Shouldn't everybodyoverreact if they feel they have lost face. While
respect others? They seem like universalwe have already stated that losing your temper is
concepts. However, the belief is that these area loss of face, when Thais do lose their temper
far stronger driving forces in Asia than elsewhere.they can lose it in a big way. They know they are
How Does Face Work in Thailand?looking bad and losing face and this can actually
How face affects Thai behaviour is a big subject.magnify their anger. The result can be extreme
If you really analysed it you could write a book onover-reactions and sometimes acts of violence.
the subject. We will only attempt to scratch theConclusion
surface. The first thing to say is that the followingThe above are just a selection of the ways in
are generalisations. Many Thais are not thatwhich face influences Thai behaviour. However,
strongly influenced by face. Still, there are a fewwhen you look at them, none of them are that
ways in which face consistently affects Thai life.alien to western values. We like to look good,
Personal Appearancemake a good impression, we want people to like
Personal appearance is important. It is the firstand respect us. We do tend to believe it is good
impression you make on people. Thais areto control our tempers and respect others.
generally well turned out, especially when working,There is no doubt that face is a factor in
going out or dealing with officials.understanding Thai behaviour. It does affect the
Many westerners in Thailand enjoy the laid-backThai mentality in subtle and deep-reaching ways.
atmosphere and like to dress casual in dirty oldHowever, I do believe it is a mistake to
shirts, shorts and flip-flops. This is fine in casualover-state its importance. The explanations of
situations but it can make a bad impression inThai behaviour are often much simpler. Human
more formal situations such as dealing withnature is still the greatest driving force. The things
officials. Government officials and offices arethat influence our behaviour such as love, greed
positions of respect and if you turn up scruffy,and ego are also the forces that influence Thais.
they may see it as a disrespectful start.Thais really are not so different from us. The
You will make this bad opening impression worsereason we often don't understand Thai behaviour
if you have tattoos, body piercings or an unusualis simple - people are complicated.
haircut. These are all things that in Thailand are